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THE WORLD WE LIVE IN Tuesday, 15 October 2013



Wouldn’t it be fabulous if everything were done as you ask? Wouldn’t it be splendid if people always agreed with you? How great would it be if decisions were simple? Wouldn’t you want to know how this could happen for you? Well look what they’ve done to my dreams!

The world we live in is complex enough without seeking confrontation with others, so why do they always seek it with you, why can’t they leave you be in your world, to live your way, you know, one person, one gaol, one mission. Leave me alone and I’ll be alright Jack!

You’ve heard it said, “This is my world, I just let you live in it”. Well it isn’t. Outside of your head there really is only one world, it’s the world we (all) live in and it’s the world we all meet in and do business in and it’s the world in which we all have to get along in if we want to make life simpler.

Your real world (in your head with all your thoughts and ideas, prejudices and preconceived notions of the way things are and the way things ought to be) is not the real world. The real world is the world in which you are allowed to live in, that is the worlds of other people, the worlds of our colleagues, the worlds of our suppliers and the worlds of our customers. You better forget living in your world, at least whilst you’re at work and get used to the ideas that people want you, temporarily to be living in their world, that’s where they feel secure, in control, familiar and powerful, that’s where they do business and that is where you’ll need to be.

So the world in which we live is the world in which each one of is living in and I know this, very few people are adept at living in two worlds, especially when those two worlds seem far apart, alien or hostile at first, but this is negotiation, this is often sales, this is occasionally business.

What I do at Spectrum Linguistics & Performance Development is allow you to first of all notice the world in which others live, show you how you can enter that world and influence others as to the existence of yours

It’s a strange old world made complex by the knowledge that’s there’s nout so queer as folk. It’s a challenging old world too and with development you can bring them, excitedly into a brave new world, yours!

There is nothing so powerful in business as knowing people, not in the sense of who you know, but in the sense of being able to know the people you meet, the people you work with, the people you manage and the people you do business with: It saves us time, it saves us money, it saves us energy, it saves us frustrated emotions, it saves us stress, and that is something we all strive towards, it’s the world in which we live!.

If you would like to find out more about the world in which we live and how to live in other worlds let’s connect @frank smethers (Twitter) for details of training for your staff, let’s talk. I’m happy to come over to your world! Give me a call 07791748800