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The meaning of your communication? Tuesday, 20 September 2011


The meaning of your communication is ---the response you get. It's an easy phrase to write but what does it mean?

The response I get is what I meant to communicate? Who believes this? Sometimes the response you get is deffinately not the what you meant to happen-or is it? As will all of the presuppositions of Neuro Linguistic Programming it may or may not be true and the emphasis is on you. Can you take the stance that it is a convienient assumption for you that IT IS TRUE? Behave as though it were true then say to yourself,"What do I need to say to encourage a different response?"

Taken to its extreme and responses may be more than verbal if the reposnce you get is negative (agressive/abusive/violent) it is hard to accept that you had any part to play in it and you dont have to believe that you did, but when you know how you communicated prior to the response it will allow you to consider do you need to change how you communicated. At the very least it should prevent the same thing from happening again.

If I respond in anger it is becuase somebody communicated to me in such a way that I felt anger, Yet as we know I am in charge of my mind and therefore my feelings.On the other hand, when I communicate with somebody and can see that my communication has angered them, that was my intent. In order to lessen their feeling of anger I need to recommunicate differently and change the way they feel. If I leave them feeling/showing anger then that was absolutely my meaning!   

So you see the meaning of your communication IS the response you get

Go and seek out some responses and see if what I say is true!